Thursday, September 21, 2017

now you're really pissed

I just recorded a video talking about the lack of oppression white people have faced in America. These poor people, guys it's just so sad.😉 Maybe if they'd ever faced real oppression they wouldn't be so keen to look down on others.'s not just being white, it's being Christian. Yep, I said that.

I hear so much about how Christians are oppressed from the mouths of Christians. But...what I see is not so much Christians being judged but them judging other religions. They just can't seem to stand it when people do not believe like they believe. The thing is...religion in any form is basically the same thing. Throughout the Bible there are stories of God commanding that women be raped, that children be killed and that cities be conquered. But yes, that is a sane religion and all others are insane.

The God of the Bible also allows slavery, including selling your own daughter as a sex slave (Exodus 21:1-11), child abuse (Judges 11:29-40 & Isaiah 13:16), and bashing babies against rocks (Hosea 13:16 & Psalms 137:9). 

So, it's not so much that you are being oppressed but that you call it oppression when someone says, "Nah, I don't agree with that."'s not so much that you are oppressed but that you are the oppressor. Every person living has as much right to their belief as you do. If you want the freedom to believe as you do, then give others the same freedom. 

My Grandmother used to say, "you need to sweep your own porch before you go tryin' to sweep somebody else's." I'd say that pretty much sums it up. I'll pore one out for ya G-Mother and I'll make it Ancient Age. I know how you used love it. Love to Ya.

Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Monday, September 18, 2017

The Energy In The Room

A family member sent me a video of children singing Karaoke. When I watched I couldn't help but be reminded of my inability to perform without looking like someone ran over my new puppy. It's not my thing and it's also not the thing this is about. The video just woke up a thought in me that was laying dormant. 

Here's the meat and potatoes. One person can change the energy in a room. That is why all TV shows have comedians that warm up the crowds before the show starts. It raises the energy in the room and gets everyone tuned to the same frequency. I feel like the people who came up with this may just think that it cheers everyone up and gets them ready to applaud. It does but it goes way deeper than that. The way you can tell is by bringing the room down. You will actually feel the change in your body. I refer you to this video. There is a reason Tony Robbins hypes up his crowd. There is a reason that your body doesn't feel too well after you watch violence or something sad on TV. This is not just a one man/woman show, everyone feels it. If the room is happy and someone comes in with something that brings the energy down it never happens to just one person. It happens to everyone. 

Moral of the story: One person can feed the feeling in the room. Remember that when you are having a shitty day. Remember that when your children are acting in a way you don't like them to act. They could be feeding off of you. Too bad we don't have our own warm up people while we get ready in the morning. It could keep us from having bad days. 

Hands in the middle:

Thursday, September 14, 2017

Dear Dictators of The World:

I know that title must sound like a joke but it isn't. Let me start by addressing you all by pointing to this link that holds your names and faces. Surprise, you are all men, fearful little men. There you are, puppet master to the US President. Oh and you, you are the most scared of all.

I know that some of you arrived at your post with strongly held beliefs that with force and a strong arm you would hold dominion over your people. Yes this will do that but at every turn there will be someone waiting to unseat you. You give them no choice. If you were in their position what choice would you have? Knowing they have no choice, you look over your shoulder, believing that you might one day be fatally removed from power. You think if you keep them afraid enough they'll be too fearful to act. There will be some strong soul with love for the people, that they will gladly give their life to see freedom for those people. That strength is the thought that wakes you and stops your deep sleep each night. You do not fear what is but what could be because you know the mind of man and you know he will one day rise. I understand that you may feel that you have no other path because of the power and money that backs you. To cross them would put yourself in the crosshairs as well. What you have may seem like strength in it's showing but when it all comes down to it your strength is just a mask for your fear. Strong people do not need to be feared.

I give to you a better way. I give you a way of true strength that carries no fear. Had you the heart of a lion you would stand for right and you would have no fear of the repercussions. If you free your people you open the door that allows you to stop looking over your shoulder. And if you die trying that would be the greatest death. As it stands now, you will one day die because you have no dominion over death and every ounce of harm you have caused others will feel like the flesh is being burned away from your dying heart. There will be no peace for you.

Take all the time you need to meditate on this. Find a nice quiet spot where you can be alone. Imagine for a moment what it would feel like if your people allowed you power because they love you. Sit with that.

You could sit with that forever but now let's go back and feel what your life feels like everyday that you cause harm to other people.

I'm not sure how you got the wrong idea. It could have been learned from others. It could be that you experienced a feeling of power by bullying someone. Maybe you just wanted to be wealthy and the price was holding your people down to keep money in your pockets and that of your benefactors. Any old way you slice it, you are weak. Standing up would show courage and you've never been able to do that. The man that will take you down for the love of his people has true strength. A man like you has no strength for he fears his own undoing.

Dear Dictators of the World, you have a choice and so far you have been too fearful to make it. You might look to those countries who have freedom at their forefront. You will not see those people plotting to overthrow their government. And you won't see leaders in fear of that. Well, that is until they start seeing signs of liberty being taken away. I'm just saying, you might not have ever weighed your options but it's not too late.    

Monday, September 11, 2017

in the fabulous words of Kevin Hart "you gone learn t'day"

Please watch this and you will be amazed at what you will learn. I don't know how many times I've watched it. Hint: it's a bunch.

Sunday, September 10, 2017

Life Changer

I wanted this to be a 5 magic minutes video but I couldn't whittle it down any tighter than it is. Have fun with this. You will not believe the change that you will feel by the end.

Friday, September 8, 2017

this will sound like horn tootin but I promise I'm just trying to make a point

Okay, so on October 7th I will turn 51. I've lived a little while. When I think back over all those years there is one recurring theme to the things people say about me and the things people say to me. That theme would be, I could never...I could never dress like you dress, I love what you do but I could never, I could never put myself out there like you do, I could never be that comfortable with saying what I really think and it goes on and on. I could easily retire on the money I could have earned if I made a dollar each time that I heard that phrase. Well, I've got just one thing to say to all the people who have said that of/to me, Yes You Can!

If you could never then neither could I but I did. So I guess I'm saying you are wrong. All of those "could nevers" say only one thing, "I cannot be me." You are afraid people won't accept you for who you really are but I'm living proof you are wrong. I know that I may not be everyone's cup of tea but I wouldn't be even if I held back one ounce of who I am. If there's a chance people might still not like me when I hold back then why would I do it. Why not put myself out there and attract people who would like someone like me? Imagine how that feels. What would it feel like to let your hair down, kick your feet up and just be you? What would it feel like if you showed the world who you really are and they said "Hell Yeah?" They will and the ones that won't will not outnumber those who already didn't like you but you might gain a few.'d be free.

One thing I can say for sure, any set back you have from being genuinely who you are will only be temporary. I have always stood up for those I think need me to and for myself. My very wise and well meaning granddaddy told me years ago, "You are just like your mother. You let people push you out front to speak for them and then when you turn around all those people will be gone. No one will stand behind you." That may be the only time he was ever wrong but he was. Well, maybe he was right about people not having my back but if I had heeded his warning, I'd have gone against all I've ever been. Staying true to myself has never failed me. I have always stood up even if it set me back a moment. In the end, only good came out of it.

I changed positions at work once because I didn't want to work for a person that really treated people terribly. The position I took was phased out in a downsize and the next job I got I met B. If I'd just stayed in the first position and kept my mouth shut, I'd have kept my job but I wouldn't have met Bryan. Score!

I once stood up in a meeting to advocated to not cut employee pay in a room full of people strongly contemplating doing so and guess what? They didn't cut pay and I believe they just wanted someone to voice another view because they were looking for another option. No one else in that room was going to stand even if they agreed with me. I know because the ones who did agreed with me told me later that, guess what? They "never could" have said what I said in that room. One of those people may even be reading this. I could go on and on but I won't. Just trust me that it pays off in the end.

You've just gotta have faith. Goodness always prevails in the end. Being true to who you are always prevails in the end. Do a trust fall with the universe. I promise it will catch you. Man, don't you know, it's what you are effin here for. 

Thursday, September 7, 2017

I Miss Wayne Dyer

I miss the guy. I do. Last night I decided to write to him and send some questions over to the other side to see if anything came to me. Most of the day I'd spent thinking about how messed up the world is right now. So, I asked him what he thought about it because I need some real hand holding about it from someone who I felt knew how to speak to these things. Immediately I remembered the story he used to tell about meeting the couples on the beach.

Wayne says he was walking on the beach and I'm not sure if he told this to be true or just in parable. He ran into a couple who said they were thinking of moving there and asked how he liked it. He said, "how are things where you live?" They explain that the place is terrible and the people are terrible. Then he tells them, "I think you'll find the same thing here." He later runs into another couple inquiring about moving there and he asked them how things are where they live. They tell him it's beautiful and the people are beautiful and he tells them, "I think you'll find the same thing here." What Wayne is explaining with this story is that you will see the world as you are. If you are more positive you will have a more affirming view of the world and if you are negative you will probably be more pissed about the world.

After remembering this, I pulled up old video footage of him and watched a while. One of the first things he said was, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." This goes hand and hand with the beach story. If the people on the beach wanted to find a place that seemed nicer then they first had to learn how to see nicely. It is like the saying, "Wherever you go, there you are." You cannot out run yourself. It will be the consistent thing in all situations you find yourself in. If everything always seems like shit, maybe you just feel like shit and bring that attitude into everything.

Thanks Wayne. You came through as always. If I want to see a better world it's on me. I can choose to only see the fearful side or I can see the side filled with love. I gotta start choosing better. Damn.

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

Here's This Week's 5 Magic Minutes

I am starting a new video series called 5 Magic Minutes. I hope that I will be able to hit ya with some thoughts that might make you feel stronger, healthier, happier and your day brighter.So here's your first installment. It pairs well with the previous post and a glass of wine. Hope you like it.

Monday, September 4, 2017

Whatever IT is, Be The Shit Out Of It

Hello sweetest hearts that you are to come here and read these thoughts that won't leave me. These thoughts build and build and I release them here in this space hoping that some of you are in this moment, thinking these same thoughts along with me. I hope that when you hear someone else say this shit it stops you from feeling crazy.

Today I'm here saying that you have to stop that tape in your brain that tells you to turn down your flame so that others won't judge you. They will. It's what they do. They'll even judge you if you turn off your light altogether. They're just afraid you won't like their light so they need you to turn yours down so they don't feel alone. How dare you shine without them.

I was just talking with B today about how insanely different each individual is. I find people like me and I know you do too but as much like us as they are, there are still so many night and day differences that we are still an island unto ourselves. And ya know what, I'm more than okay with that. That my dears is what makes us so beautiful. Those most astounding beauty resides there in the person that knows who they are and they are the shit out of it. The people who "try to be" anything are the ones hardest for me to be around. There is no try to be. That's acting like someone else. I'm telling you to be you. People who do not know themselves drain the shit out of me because I feel like I spend all my energy mentally holding them up and trying not to break them.

How do you become a person who knows who they are and is the shit out of it? The first thing you need to do is turn the knob off on giving a shit what others are gonna think. The others that will judge you will not be getting to the end of your life for you and regretting for you that you never lived. Let them stifle their own self and regret for their own self. You my dear are a thing of boldness and beauty, not to be denied freedom, joy, love and happiness.

Don't let any fuckin' body steal your thunder. Roar your ass off and those who want to hear you roar will show up and roar with you.

So are you still here? Great! I'm glad you are in this partnership with me where I write and you interpret my words in a way that tells your own story. There were some of you who read a bit of this and clicked away. That's okay. Maybe on another day we'll meet in that space where we connect. We are all in this together but maybe we don't always have to ride in the same car with those folks that want the windows up. That's all it is really. 

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

We Are Who We Vote For

If you are like me, you are pretty pissed at the politicians that are running our government right now. How could one predict that the majority of them would turn out to be people who don't care about humans? Hint, we could stay tuned in and actually follow along with how they govern. Sometimes I will say that I cannot believe what is going on in this country and be met with crickets. Then someone will always say, I've not been keeping up, what's going on? Really? People who do not know what is going on or who are not keeping up do not need to go to the polls. That is how we got where we are. You cannot just skim info off the top and then go vote. Top skimmers don't know what is happening. They only do what other people are doing. That is why Tennessee can't elect a Democrat. They do what their rich preacher tells them to do. These people get into the ministry to help themselves or they would keep church and state separate. 

Are the politicians the real problem. NO. They represent the people who put them in office. If they seem to be asshats it's because the majority of people voting are asshats. It's easy to vote for better people and we don't. We get what we vote for. If asshatery isn't what you want then don't vote for an asshat and if you don't like asshats don't be one. I'm just saying that what they turn out to be is very telling of what our country has become. People vote for people they think have the same values they have. You can look to these politicians and see what Americans value. They vote against their own interest to vote for values. The values that I see that are leading the way in American is "me first." The saddest part of this "me first" attitude is that the people pushing it are Christians. We've had a few decades now of preachers pushing this agenda and because there are so many Christians in America, they have begun to believe that is what the bible says. It ain't. It don't say that anywhere in the book. 

Back when I went to Church and studied Christianity I made some discoveries out of pure self interest. 

I'd go to church and listen to the preacher preach hell fire and brimstone. I'd always look around at the others in the room to see if I could tell if anyone looked like that day's message was for them and I'd think how unfortunate this day was for those people. Some days I felt like the message was aimed at me and then the next week it would be someone else's turn in the spotlight. No doubt that every week would come with a stiff finger pointing at someone. Larry Acuff was the preacher for a while when I attended and he seemed to point the finger back at the finger pointers and they did not like that and made it known by getting rid of him. I can tell you one thing about finger pointers, they never point to themselves. 

Matthew 7 
4How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ while there is still a beam in your own eye? 5You hypocrite! First take the beam out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

There were a lot of weeks that I sat there and thought about how shitty church makes a person feel and it hurt my heart to think I'd follow an entity that would want that in his house. It felt like the father of all mankind just wasn't that great at parenting. I was a mother of two and I wouldn't just give up on my boys if they messed up. It seemed like a pretty big waste of being God if you couldn't win the parenting award for all of eternity. 

Through all of the sermons, the study and just general crowd watching, I found there were other things to be considered that were not being spoken in church.

I ponder one thing over and over and it was where the bible spoke of the truth that had been revealed. I could not find what that was. I'd read it and flip back and read to see if I'd missed something, then I go forward and read in case I just hadn't got to the reveal yet. One day it finally hit me what the reveal was. First I started to really see Jesus with untarnished eyes and he was not those words that condemned the people every Sunday. He was God walking in the flesh so that we could see what God would be if he were like us. The secret Jesus revealed was what God really is and just like Jesus there was no condemnation only salvation.  

Isaiah 53
1Who has believed our message? And to whom has the arm of the LORD been revealed? For He grew up before Him like a tender shoot, And like a root out of parched ground; He has no stately form or majesty That we should look upon Him, Nor appearance that we should be attracted to Him. 3He was despised and forsaken of men, A man of sorrows and acquainted with grief; And like one from whom men hide their face He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.  4Surely our grieves He Himself bore, And our sorrows He carried; Yet we ourselves esteemed Him stricken, Smitten of God, and afflicted 5But He was pierced through for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; The chastening for our well-being fell upon Him, And by His scourging we are healed 6All of us like sheep have gone astray, Each of us has turned to his own way; But the LORD has caused the iniquity of us all To fall on Him  7He was oppressed and He was afflicted, Yet He did not open His mouth; Like a lamb that is led to slaughter, And like a sheep that is silent before its shearers, So He did not open His mouth. 8By oppression and judgment He was taken away; And as for His generation, who considered That He was cut off out of the land of the living For the transgression of my people, to whom the stroke was due?  His grave was assigned with wicked men, Yet He was with a rich man in His death, Because He had done no violence, Nor was there any deceit in His mouth. 10But the LORD was pleased To crush Him, putting Him to grief; If He would render Himself as a guilt offering, He will see His offspring, He will prolong His days, And the good pleasure of the LORD will prosper in His hand 11 As a result of the anguish of His soul, He will see it and be satisfied; By His knowledge the Righteous One, My Servant, will justify the many, As He will bear their iniquities. 12 Therefore, I will allot Him a portion with the great, And He will divide the booty with the strong; Because He poured out Himself to death, And was numbered with the transgressors; Yet He Himself bore the sin of many, And interceded for the transgressors

It's all there.

Imagine if every person living was ready to lay down their life for another. There would be no ugliness in the world. And maybe if we just had the will to lay down or life then the act might never be asked of us. Maybe the will to give our life for another would win our own salvation. And maybe if we don't find others worthy of saving we also do not think we are worthy.

Proverbs 23 
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he

So let's go back to where we started from. If our values tell us that taking care of those in need is important, we will elect someone who believes we should take care of those in need. Nowhere in the bible are we granted the power to interpret this different than it has been stated over and over. If we believe it is in our power to decide who to help and who not to help then we will elect people who look down on people in need. That's not what we were told. We were told that these people are a stand in for Jesus and what we do or don't do for them we do or don't do to him. There's no talk of enabling, that's a man made thought. 

Matthew 25:45
Then the King will answer, 'Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for Me.

So what else does the bible say about this?

Proverbs 14:31

He who oppresses the poor taunts his Maker, But he who is gracious to the needy honors Him.

Proverbs 19:17
One who is gracious to a poor man lends to the LORD, And He will repay him for his good deed.

Matthew 10:42

And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones because he is My disciple, truly I tell you, he will never lose his reward.

Proverbs 14:31
He who oppresses the poor taunts his Maker, But he who is gracious to the needy honors Him.

The end.

Monday, August 28, 2017

A Very Important Must Hear Podcast

There are times when it is so hard to believe that even though there is so much evidence regarding the way people in this world marginalize other people, our "polite Christian society" finds a way to just brush it off and act like a thing really isn't a thing. So, I have handpicked some evidence to share with you here if you'll just take the time to learn a little about the world of a people who've been marginalized. Please follow this link over to Malcolm Gladwell's Revisionist History Podcast and listen to the episode called, Miss Buchanan's Period Of Adjustment.  Once you've arrived through the link I provided just click the download button to listen. You could also just look this podcast up on your iPhone and download it to your podcast app by searching Revisionist History.

Saturday, August 26, 2017

The World Is Shouting At Us While Asking, Is this Mic On?

This post was accidentally deleted but I was able to screen grab it with a snipping tool from a preview. I'm sorry for the quality and the bungles but I think this is very important.

If this is more than you'd like to read, I will just point out the main idea I'd like for you to take from this post:

The humans on this planet, at this moment, in this time, had rather save themselves than save humanity. The way to change that is to choose to love everyday instead of fear. Fear makes us selfish and only concerned with ourselves and with what is ours. Love wakes us up to others and all the possibilities of peace, love and equality. Fear makes us only concerned with what might happen in the future and love allows us to be here now. When you fear you become obsessed with the dangers around you. When you love those things fall away and you can trust that the universe has your back. That is real faith and it takes great courage to have that kind of faith.

Religion in this country has become a new psychosis. That isn't just happening in this country. Other countries have the same issues to a greater and lesser degree. We can see that and call it out daily but when it comes to our own religion we are blind. We use religion in this country to be as unwelcoming to others as we want to be. We shun whole communities if we feel like they don't measure up. People kill the babies in their wombs because of religion and this was proven in a study that LifeWay conducted regarding who gets abortions. News flash, it's Christians. They are scared for the church and their community to know they are having a baby so they get abortions. 

We can thank the Christian community for giving us a president that may be the most vile human ever to be born on this soil. They watched him say horrible things about women and fire up rooms full of people (of which they were a part of) with hate and violence and still said he was God's chosen. That is the religious psychosis I'm talking about and it should have it's own category.

Every Christian I know either carries or at least owns a gun. There ain't no Jesus in that. He didn't try to protect himself when the church came for him. He laid down his life. 

White men carrying big scary guns is the new bomb vest in this country. They go into high traffic areas and shoot up rooms full of people and when most people hear about it they assume it is a person with brown skin. No one is coming to America to kill us, we are killing ourselves. 

When white people gather in the scariest of ways, no rubber bullets or tear gas comes out but let anyone else gather in a peaceful protest and you will see the riot gear come out. That is fucked up. If you don't see that then you are only watching Fox News. It's reported widely if you watch almost 100% of all other news as well as in other countries.

Look at the difference in the way the police treat people. A white man resists arrest and they call for back up. A black man resists arrest and they just go ahead and kill him. A white man wields a gun and they call in someone to talk him down. A black man wields a gun and they just go ahead and kill him. A white man gets caught with marijuana and they give him a citation. A black man gets caught with marijuana and they take him to jail and maybe even rough him up along the way. And obviously this is not just a man issue, the differences are made with women as well.

All over the world the a woman's worth is tied to a man and that is bullshit. So we have it better in America than some but we are still treated unequal in all matters.

So I went on another long tangent here but I did not want to end this without laying out all the things I think we should be concerned with. We do get to choose love or fear. I hope we begin to choose well. Jesus chose well and I know you want to be Christ like.

So finally, here's the post.

Friday, August 25, 2017

This Is Everything...

and it is the science behind everything I try to say with this space. It is exactly what I was saying when I wrote this post. This will make your life make sense so please give it the near hour and listen fully.

How much of who we are is biology? How much is learned? And how much can we change? This hour, TED speakers on how genes and experience collaborate — and compete — to make us who we are. Guests include neuroscientist Robert Sapolsky, epigeneticist Moshe Szyf, pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris, and psychologist Brian Little.

Wednesday, August 23, 2017

new camera


I own a very nice pro canon camera that weights a ton. Since I never do professional shoots anymore I don't really use that camera. I only use my iPhone because it's just easier. A couple of things I'd been thinking about made me take a look at getting something new. For one, as I stated before, I wanted a lighter camera and two, I wanted something that would shoot decent video. The canon Ti cameras do both. I can't remember the latest version of the Ti (maybe 7) because I didn't buy that model. I decided to go back one version to get a better price. I bought T5i and I feel like I will be happy with it. Today I went to the park to walk at lunch so I pointed it at a thing or two just to get a feel for how it will shoot in manual mode.

It's been a while since I did a photo heavy post so I guess it was time.

Monday, August 14, 2017

happy = healthy

Over the last 2 months I've been hard at planning our company picnic that is, in part, a health fair. At some point I shifted my focus away from providing a health fair that would bring the general anticipated and towards how we stay healthy. So not s'much the old, "here's some stuff that you can do when you are sick, to let's do some stuff that will keep us from getting sick. I decided to make that shift away from what the other offices were doing with their health fair and just do our own thing, As soon as I decided to shift I think, in that same moment, I realized that the key to good health is just being happy. 

Think about this for a minute. Most sickness is stress related. If we are stressed then we are not happy and when we are happy we are usually not stressed. If this is the case, and it is, then wouldn't being happy be the prescription? After I did the math of this in my little mind I thought of all the things I've had at my fingertips that have taught exactly that. 

Numerous doctors have turned their backs on traditional ways to a more holistic approach that looks at your life to find answers as to why you are sick. Here are a few:

You should visit their sites to get a little insight into their views on health. It will change the way you look at being well. 

Anita Moorjani died and when she came back she had a new outlook on life and she knew why she she died and came back from illness that was impossible to recover from.  I think you'd find her story interesting. She is the best example of the mind making the body sick.

Here is a little more info regarding the effects of happiness on our health

Six Ways Happiness Is Good For Your Health
Does Being Happy Make You Healthy?
The Happiness-Health Connection
Learn Why Being Happy is Very Healthy For You

Okay that's 'bout it. Peace out.

Thursday, July 27, 2017

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Sometimes I feel like my message is lost on here. So, today I wanted to break it down. It truly is the most simple of philosophies but for some reason people overthink it and miss the message. They turn it into something way bigger than it is.
  • We are all equal.
  • Exactly who we are is the answer. Not who the world shapes use to be and not what others believe we should be and not what we believe others want us to be but exactly who we are. 
  • We have to love each other for exactly who we were meant to be on the day of our birth and we should not ask others to be anything other than that. 
I know that sounds simple but when I say all that I always get a lot of "but what about." So, I'm going to break it down one more level. 


Now what I mean by that is if you are putting out anything that does not uphold peace and love then you are putting shit into the world and that will not make the world clean. If it ain't love then it's fear. If it's fear then it ain't love. 
  • If you believe others should be something that is tolerable to your special palette, that is shit.
  • If you believe you need a gun to protect yourself, that is shit.
  • If you believe your race is superior, that is shit.
  • If you believe your place of birth makes you entitled, that is shit. 
  • If you don't mind people being harmed as long as you are safe, that is shit.
  • If you believe killing people in their home on other soil is okay as long as you live, that is shit.
  • If you believe that killing makes you safer, that is shit.
  • If you believe this country belongs to anyone, that is shit. 
  • If you do not believe freedom belongs to every person living, that is shit.
So read it and weep out your "but what abouts." It will not be anything I've not heard before. But what about if all your arguments are met with "but what abouts" that are the opposite of your "but what abouts"? If it has not happened then what about if it never does. And what about if it has happened but will never happen again? Life is meant to be lived here and now and if your plans only include what you think might happen then you are fucking life up the ass. Why do you even want to live?


Most of the damage caused comes from a place of making sure "but what about" never happens. Kill or be killed. There is another perspective. But what about if the black man wasn't reaching for a gun? But what about if the Muslim man loves this country like you love this country? But what about if the people coming into the country are just like you and just want the best for their family? But what about if the transgender person is just a regular person and we don't make sex categories but just let people be who they are?

Folks that is as simple as I can make it. You don't have to believe me but what about if that is just more shit.

Tuesday, July 25, 2017

Malcolm Gladwell - You Were Not Wrong

I recently listened to a podcast episode of Black On the Air with Larry Wilmore speaking with Malcolm Gladwell. Although Larry Wilmore is on my top ten list of people I'd love to have at my dinner party, I did not think he was totally right in this discussion regarding satire. I understand the points being made on both sides but I don't think either side had a completely fleshed out argument to defend their stance. I want to give it a shot here and stand up for Malcolm without completely shooting Larry down.

Malcolm tried to make the point that satire has some responsibility that goes along with it, in that it could be used as a vehicle to provoke change. 

Larry's argument is that satire chooses no side and has no responsibility but merely is a flashlight that is pointed to put attention on the subject being satirized. 

Okay Larry, I see your point. Maybe we don't need Will Ferrell or Alec Baldwin showing us the way to heaven's frontgate but to say that satire ends when the curtain closes is a complete turn about from what you said on the previous episode to Al Franken

Larry, you said (this will not be a direct quote) that when Darrell Hammond satirized Al Gore and the lock box on SNL it changed the course of the election because it shined a light on things Gore did that people had not noticed before. So, you may say that it has no responsibility to evoke change and it may not but then you have no control over the way this is received by the viewer and that is where your original intent stops mattering. It is the point when the math starts to change. The intent my not be to bring about change but that does not mean that it is not the outcome for good or bad. Would Al Gore win the election if SNL left the whole thing alone? Would we have gone to war with Iraq if Gore had become president? Would thousands of service men die if Gore had become president? I think that is the point Malcolm was trying to make and I wish he had made that point clearer rather than just agree with you and then end this discussion. 

So, on the one hand, Larry, you are right but on the other you cannot control the outcome and on that hand you can't be right. It's like intentionally running over the cyclist and then blaming the air for blowing the wrong way when the person is injured as a result. 

You cannot innocently shine the light on something and then blame the thing for being seen. Dave Chappelle quit comedy for this reason. The wrong people were laughing and for the wrong reason. That makes the case for Malcolm's Archie Bunker analogy. You shine a light on Archie's racist ways and the racists laugh because they think the show is about people like them. They don't get the satire and they don't see the light shining. They are encouraged. 

Also, you do not shine the light without pointing it at the thing you want people to see and so by choosing where the light goes, you make a statement. The two can't be exclusive. If you shoot an arrow in the sky with no target and it lands in a place that causes harm you are still responsible for pulling back the bow even if you didn't mean anything by it. 

The other side of this is Fox News. They put out false info like it's real. Does that cause harm? Stephen Colbert was invited to host the George W's correspondence dinner in 2006. He dressed down the president and the GOP's was in shock because they could not tell the difference in his satire of Fox News and the real Fox News. They thought he was their Jon Stewart and they were taken by surprise when it turned out he wasn't.

If satire takes no side then why shine the light at all? Why not just leave the thing alone and let it play like it will? And if the author of satire truly takes no side when deciding where to point the light, from where does the light come?

If the wrong people laugh for the wrong reason does that not give rise to encouragement even though there was no intent and no side taken? I think that is what Malcolm tried to shine his light on and I believe he was correct. Satire is not without danger. 

If satire has the potential to cause harm then it could also be used for good and I think that is Larry's point though it sounds like Malcolm's. You shine the light, that is where your responsibility ends and then you walk away. You cannot decide for people if they will see the light. That is where their responsibility begins.

Here is the math on this:
Larry=no you are not responsible for how people use the info the light is shining on 
Malcolm=yes the light could bring change and the vehicle it rides in could take it somewhere positive
Both sides together=you cannot control others and that means that you might cause harm 

Thank you guys for this thoughtful dialogue and Malcolm you are on my dinner list too.

Friday, July 21, 2017

just a little observation of the situation -edited 7-24-17

The US wealth divide has been on my mind for a while now and I've come to a conclusion that is a little (teeny tiny bit) different than what I thought before. I have held the idea for a while that the reason our country has gone the way of dickheads is that the dickheads are too rich to know what it's like to be poor. They think everyone should be able to pay their own doctor bills without insurance. They think everyone should get to the end of their life and not rely on Social Security. They think if you cannot pay your own doctor bills you don't deserve treatment. They think there is something wrong with people who cannot find a way to be wealthy and they say and think things like Rep. Jason Chaffetz, R-Utah said:

"Well we're getting rid of the individual mandate. We're getting rid of those things that people said they don't want. And you know what? Americans have choices. And they've got to make a choice. And so, maybe rather than getting that new iPhone that they just love and they want to go spend hundreds of dollars on that, maybe they should invest it in their own health care. They've got to make those decisions for themselves."

That only explains a part of the equation. The thing I've arrived at lately is that it goes both ways. Poor people do not understand what rich is. I feel like most poor people think that being rich is the guy next door that works for Budweiser, has a nice house and a new boat. I also think the next level up thinks the same way. I would say anyone making less than $200,000.00 has no idea that they don't really have money. I think in the world today that is chicken feed. Unless we've been poor then we don't know poor. If we've never been rich we don't know rich.

It's like when I heard a lottery winner (who won a few hundred million) interviewed on the radio about how he'd spend his winnings. He said he was either going to get a new truck or fix the roof on his house. He said it like he had no idea he could do both. That is the thing I'm talking about here.

So what does this do to the way we see things. Well, for the rich man, he thinks he is carrying everyone on his back. What he never thinks of is, if he actually paid the people who work for him the wage they deserve, he'd not be as rich. He's rich because he hoards the money for himself. And for the poor man and the next level up they get so mad at people on government assistance and they think they are the problem. When the rich man tells them that is the issue they believe it. They think like the rich man. They think they are carrying them on their backs because they do not understand that they are poor too. They don't understand that the rich man is their problem. They don't understand that the rich man looks down on them as the problem as much as they do the folks on assistance. Now everyone is on the same page and no one is mad at the rich man who hides his money overseas to avoid paying taxes. No one is mad at the rich man who doesn't pay his workers a living wage. No one is mad at the rich man who bribes the government to make laws that favor him and his business. No one is mad when the individuals who govern this nation get richer and richer because they have all the insider information and the kickbacks from the wealthy for spinning things their way.
Here is another thing I'm not sure most people understand when it comes to taking healthcare away from poor people and making the next level up pay more ($162 a month more, on average) for their policy. The Medicaid program is so instilled into the fabric of the healthcare system and workforce of this country that to take it away would literally strip this country of jobs to the point you could not even begin to fathom, not to mention the number of people who'd die. Hospitals would lose the money they get for people who cannot afford treatment or they'd let people die. Doctors would not be paid to treat people who cannot afford treatment or they'd let people die. People who go to school for years to become doctors won't be able to repay student loans they took to become doctors. Some of them would be lucky to break even. People who work at other medical jobs would be affected like x-ray techs, lab techs, ultrasound techs, nurses, etc. Those people who administer these healthcare programs in offices like Dept of Human Services would be without jobs. The people at the insurance companies who administer the programs would be out of work. Because these insurance companies would lose the money paid to them by the programs they would have to increase the premiums on people who could pay because it would not be offset by government funds. These things would happen in every town, in every state in this country. I cannot do that kind of math but a lot of people you know would be affected right down to the people driving the Human Resource vans and the folks delivering Meals on Wheels. These same people would not have jobs. Every person working in my office and the people we employee in the field, no jobs. They'd all be gone if there was not Medicare.

Not being able to afford insurance does not mean you shouldn't have it.

I hope this country will be happy about cutting welfare for the poor and giving it to the wealthy. It's like bizarro Robin Hood to be giving out billionaire welfare.

These wealthy folks think if you are poor you don't work so they are sending all of the brown people out of the country to make sure you have a job. Obviously they don't believe the unemployment rate in America. It ain't that bad. And since most people who can work are working, who is going to do the job of the people being sent out of the country? Maybe those people I talked about who'd lose their jobs due to Medicaid cuts. What they see as fair is that people who have a seat at the high table are deserving and those who are not should have to beg. They want people who are not rich to serve them.

So let's keep kicking the little guy and elevating the wealthy to the heavens. And let's do it because they told us Jesus said so. Cause that is really all they need do is make us believe they love the Lord more and we'll eat that shit up. Nevermind that their actions are the opposite of what Jesus would do. They will continue to drop the bait and we'll keep eating it up. It's like we are zombies. They drop a little Jesus on us and we mindlessly head in their direction. 

Thursday, June 22, 2017

Beautiful Voices Interview

Months and months ago I was featured on the Beautiful Voices blog series at Annmarie Gianni. This is a series they do that features folks who use their products. I haven't shared this on the blog so now I'm finally getting around to it. You can find the interview here. If you do take time to read this I thank you.

Wednesday, June 21, 2017

#love #beautiful #happy #life

What a beautiful world we live in. I think about the globe we live on, how many people there are, how each one of us is a unique individual with no copy and it blows my mind. Each one of us was born into this world to be exactly who we are. We are not here to think like anyone else, act like anyone else, have the same talents as everyone else or to make the same mark as everyone else. We get to be us, the only one of our kind. That is what makes living beautiful. We all get to be the captains of our own ships.

Some folks want to captain other people's ships and this is when we get into trouble. If we look deeply at why some people feel like they have the right to captain someone else's ship we can usually trace it back to religion. Almost all religions have components regarding saving others and about questioning faith. These two things alone give people permission to take the text of their faith and cast judgment on others and then never question the text they use to judge others. It is cycle that is ripe for promoting hatred. It is so easy to question someone else's faith but not our own. We believe we are right and so do those who have beliefs that are different from our own. Does being right correlate to where you live and what you believe on the soil you are standing on? Who is right? We are so quick to decide someone else's religion is crazy but then never conclude the same about our own no matter how crazy it is. Everyone thinking everyone else is wrong hasn't help so far.

No one ever lives a perfect life so we will fail when following dogma. That leads to judgment and generally people judge others to keep from looking at their own wrong/guilt. They will also apply weight to the transgressions and then they will weigh the transgressions of others more heavy than their own to make themselves feel better, cause they may be wrong but at least someone is more wrong.

So, we cannot question our faith because if we do that is the greatest transgression. Wow, someone was thinking when they came up with this one. I'm going to take a minute to question faith just so none of you will have to. 

What if we were born into a world where people did not judge others? What if we were taught to love others and honor who they are? What if there weren't archaic laws in existence that govern how we should be? What if we had been taught that people who look different, act different or believe different are perfect just the way they are? What if every person had been taught this? Right now it's kind of the opposite. There are people in the world who would kill to make sure we are not different and that we do things the way they think things should be done. There are people everywhere and in every religion that feel like that. This is a fact that scares us. No matter how much the government tries to force us to believe this should be our greatest worry, the facts do not point there. More now than ever people, who are not of the traditional faith of the United States, are under attack for their faith, not the shoe on the other foot. We need to get that straight. We have been scared into believing that we are under siege when in fact we are killing our own selves. Brown people who happen to be Muslim are not the problem like we think they are. That is just an excuse to go to war at some point in the future to feed the war machine that makes rich men richer. Guns (American guns) are now the 3rd leading cause of death in children and then there is this statistic:

The pressure to fit in and to be seen as a success alone can take a toll.

Number of deaths for leading causes of death:
Heart disease: 614,348
Cancer: 591,699
Chronic lower respiratory diseases: 147,101
Accidents (unintentional injuries): 136,053
Stroke (cerebrovascular diseases): 133,103
Alzheimer's disease: 93,541
Diabetes: 76,488
Influenza and Pneumonia: 55,227
Nephritis, nephrotic syndrome and nephrosis: 48,146
Intentional self-harm (suicide): 42,773

The leading causes of death are diseases related to stress. Also, in the top 10 is "intentional self-harm." That sometimes comes from societal pressure as well. I know these diseases are also caused by diet but...

"According to the American Psychological Association, chronic stress is linked to the six leading causes of death: heart disease, cancer, lung ailments, accidents, cirrhosis of the liver and suicide. And more than 75 percent of all physician office visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints."

We as a whole seem to inflict more unintentional harm on ourselves and each other than almost any other cause of death. People are usually stressed more by not measuring up than any other thing. There is something in our world here in the US that teaches us what the measure of success is and we are crippled by not being able to reach that bar. No one seems to see that these rules are made up and that we can make up our own rules. What others think of us cannot make us anything. We only become that thing if we believe we are that.

We can make up new rules. I know we may think that religion doesn't permit this but even the bible says:

Proverbs 23:7
For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.

We need to become proponents of thinking a new way in our hearts so we can be that. We need to love people like they are. When we do we will be able to receive love for being who we are. When we aren't loved like this it because we don't love others like this. The reason we don't love others like this is because we love them at the same level we believe we deserve love. If we can't love we don't think we are loveable.

We have to shift the ugly in this world. Being guided by the ugliness will only create more ugliness. We have some shining and sparkling to do and we have not been doing it.
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