Tuesday, September 26, 2017

5 magic minutes?

I still love you even if you hate this video. If you do hate it then it might just be a message for you. 

Thursday, September 21, 2017

now you're really pissed

I just recorded a video (it'll go up on September 26th) talking about the lack of oppression white people have faced in America. These poor people, guys it's just so sad.😉 Maybe if they'd ever faced real oppression they wouldn't be so keen to look down on others. And...it's not just being white, it's being Christian. Yep, I said that.

I hear so much about how Christians are oppressed from the mouths of Christians. But...what I see is not so much Christians being judged but them judging other religions. They just can't seem to stand it when people do not believe like they believe. The thing is...religion in any form is basically the same thing. Throughout the Bible there are stories of God commanding that women be raped, that children be killed and that cities be conquered. But yes, that is a sane religion and all others are insane.

The God of the Bible also allows slavery, including selling your own daughter as a sex slave (Exodus 21:1-11), child abuse (Judges 11:29-40 & Isaiah 13:16), and bashing babies against rocks (Hosea 13:16 & Psalms 137:9). 

So, it's not so much that you are being oppressed but that you call it oppression when someone says, "Nah, I don't agree with that." And...it's not so much that you are oppressed but that you are the oppressor. Every person living has as much right to their belief as you do. If you want the freedom to believe as you do, then give others the same freedom. 

My Grandmother used to say, "you need to sweep your own porch before you go tryin' to sweep somebody else's." I'd say that pretty much sums it up. I'll pour one out for ya G-Mother and I'll make it Ancient Age. I know how you used love it. Love to Ya.

Monday, September 18, 2017

The Energy In The Room

A family member sent me a video of children singing Karaoke. When I watched I couldn't help but be reminded of my inability to perform without looking like someone ran over my new puppy. It's not my thing and it's also not the thing this is about. The video just woke up a thought in me that was laying dormant. 

Here's the meat and potatoes. One person can change the energy in a room. That is why all TV shows have comedians that warm up the crowds before the show starts. It raises the energy in the room and gets everyone tuned to the same frequency. I feel like the people who came up with this may just think that it cheers everyone up and gets them ready to applaud. It does but it goes way deeper than that. The way you can tell is by bringing the room down. You will actually feel the change in your body. I refer you to this video. There is a reason Tony Robbins hypes up his crowd. There is a reason that your body doesn't feel too well after you watch violence or something sad on TV. This is not just a one man/woman show, everyone feels it. If the room is happy and someone comes in with something that brings the energy down it never happens to just one person. It happens to everyone. 

Moral of the story: One person can feed the feeling in the room. Remember that when you are having a shitty day. Remember that when your children are acting in a way you don't like them to act. They could be feeding off of you. Too bad we don't have our own warm up people while we get ready in the morning. It could keep us from having bad days. 

Hands in the middle:

Thursday, September 14, 2017

Dear Dictators of The World:

I know that title must sound like a joke but it isn't. Let me start by addressing you all by pointing to this link that holds your names and faces. Surprise, you are all men, fearful little men. There you are, puppet master to the US President. Oh and you, you are the most scared of all.

I know that some of you arrived at your post with strongly held beliefs that with force and a strong arm you would hold dominion over your people. Yes this will do that but at every turn there will be someone waiting to unseat you. You give them no choice. If you were in their position what choice would you have? Knowing they have no choice, you look over your shoulder, believing that you might one day be fatally removed from power. You think if you keep them afraid enough they'll be too fearful to act. There will be some strong soul with love for the people, that they will gladly give their life to see freedom for those people. That strength is the thought that wakes you and stops your deep sleep each night. You do not fear what is but what could be because you know the mind of man and you know he will one day rise. I understand that you may feel that you have no other path because of the power and money that backs you. To cross them would put yourself in the crosshairs as well. What you have may seem like strength in it's showing but when it all comes down to it your strength is just a mask for your fear. Strong people do not need to be feared.

I give to you a better way. I give you a way of true strength that carries no fear. Had you the heart of a lion you would stand for right and you would have no fear of the repercussions. If you free your people you open the door that allows you to stop looking over your shoulder. And if you die trying that would be the greatest death. As it stands now, you will one day die because you have no dominion over death and every ounce of harm you have caused others will feel like the flesh is being burned away from your dying heart. There will be no peace for you.

Take all the time you need to meditate on this. Find a nice quiet spot where you can be alone. Imagine for a moment what it would feel like if your people allowed you power because they love you. Sit with that.

You could sit with that forever but now let's go back and feel what your life feels like everyday that you cause harm to other people.

I'm not sure how you got the wrong idea. It could have been learned from others. It could be that you experienced a feeling of power by bullying someone. Maybe you just wanted to be wealthy and the price was holding your people down to keep money in your pockets and that of your benefactors. Any old way you slice it, you are weak. Standing up would show courage and you've never been able to do that. The man that will take you down for the love of his people has true strength. A man like you has no strength for he fears his own undoing.

Dear Dictators of the World, you have a choice and so far you have been too fearful to make it. You might look to those countries who have freedom at their forefront. You will not see those people plotting to overthrow their government. And you won't see leaders in fear of that. Well, that is until they start seeing signs of liberty being taken away. I'm just saying, you might not have ever weighed your options but it's not too late.    

Monday, September 11, 2017

in the fabulous words of Kevin Hart "you gone learn t'day"

Please watch this and you will be amazed at what you will learn. I don't know how many times I've watched it. Hint: it's a bunch.

Sunday, September 10, 2017

Life Changer

I wanted this to be a 5 magic minutes video but I couldn't whittle it down any tighter than it is. Have fun with this. You will not believe the change that you will feel by the end.

Friday, September 8, 2017

this will sound like horn tootin but I promise I'm just trying to make a point

Okay, so on October 7th I will turn 51. I've lived a little while. When I think back over all those years there is one recurring theme to the things people say about me and the things people say to me. That theme would be, I could never...I could never dress like you dress, I love what you do but I could never, I could never put myself out there like you do, I could never be that comfortable with saying what I really think and it goes on and on. I could easily retire on the money I could have earned if I made a dollar each time that I heard that phrase. Well, I've got just one thing to say to all the people who have said that of/to me, Yes You Can!

If you could never then neither could I but I did. So I guess I'm saying you are wrong. All of those "could nevers" say only one thing, "I cannot be me." You are afraid people won't accept you for who you really are but I'm living proof you are wrong. I know that I may not be everyone's cup of tea but I wouldn't be even if I held back one ounce of who I am. If there's a chance people might still not like me when I hold back then why would I do it. Why not put myself out there and attract people who would like someone like me? Imagine how that feels. What would it feel like to let your hair down, kick your feet up and just be you? What would it feel like if you showed the world who you really are and they said "Hell Yeah?" They will and the ones that won't will not outnumber those who already didn't like you but you might gain a few.  And...you'd be free.

One thing I can say for sure, any set back you have from being genuinely who you are will only be temporary. I have always stood up for those I think need me to and for myself. My very wise and well meaning granddaddy told me years ago, "You are just like your mother. You let people push you out front to speak for them and then when you turn around all those people will be gone. No one will stand behind you." That may be the only time he was ever wrong but he was. Well, maybe he was right about people not having my back but if I had heeded his warning, I'd have gone against all I've ever been. Staying true to myself has never failed me. I have always stood up even if it set me back a moment. In the end, only good came out of it.

I changed positions at work once because I didn't want to work for a person that really treated people terribly. The position I took was phased out in a downsize and the next job I got I met B. If I'd just stayed in the first position and kept my mouth shut, I'd have kept my job but I wouldn't have met Bryan. Score!

I once stood up in a meeting to advocated to not cut employee pay in a room full of people strongly contemplating doing so and guess what? They didn't cut pay and I believe they just wanted someone to voice another view because they were looking for another option. No one else in that room was going to stand even if they agreed with me. I know because the ones who did agreed with me told me later that, guess what? They "never could" have said what I said in that room. One of those people may even be reading this. I could go on and on but I won't. Just trust me that it pays off in the end.

You've just gotta have faith. Goodness always prevails in the end. Being true to who you are always prevails in the end. Do a trust fall with the universe. I promise it will catch you. Man, don't you know, it's what you are effin here for. 

Thursday, September 7, 2017

I Miss Wayne Dyer

I miss the guy. I do. Last night I decided to write to him and send some questions over to the other side to see if anything came to me. Most of the day I'd spent thinking about how messed up the world is right now. So, I asked him what he thought about it because I need some real hand holding about it from someone who I felt knew how to speak to these things. Immediately I remembered the story he used to tell about meeting the couples on the beach.

Wayne says he was walking on the beach and I'm not sure if he told this to be true or just in parable. He ran into a couple who said they were thinking of moving there and asked how he liked it. He said, "how are things where you live?" They explain that the place is terrible and the people are terrible. Then he tells them, "I think you'll find the same thing here." He later runs into another couple inquiring about moving there and he asked them how things are where they live. They tell him it's beautiful and the people are beautiful and he tells them, "I think you'll find the same thing here." What Wayne is explaining with this story is that you will see the world as you are. If you are more positive you will have a more affirming view of the world and if you are negative you will probably be more pissed about the world.

After remembering this, I pulled up old video footage of him and watched a while. One of the first things he said was, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." This goes hand and hand with the beach story. If the people on the beach wanted to find a place that seemed nicer then they first had to learn how to see nicely. It is like the saying, "Wherever you go, there you are." You cannot out run yourself. It will be the consistent thing in all situations you find yourself in. If everything always seems like shit, maybe you just feel like shit and bring that attitude into everything.

Thanks Wayne. You came through as always. If I want to see a better world it's on me. I can choose to only see the fearful side or I can see the side filled with love. I gotta start choosing better. Damn.

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

Here's This Week's 5 Magic Minutes

I am starting a new video series called 5 Magic Minutes. I hope that I will be able to hit ya with some thoughts that might make you feel stronger, healthier, happier and your day brighter.So here's your first installment. It pairs well with the previous post and a glass of wine. Hope you like it.

Monday, September 4, 2017

Whatever IT is, Be The Shit Out Of It

Hello sweetest hearts that you are to come here and read these thoughts that won't leave me. These thoughts build and build and I release them here in this space hoping that some of you are in this moment, thinking these same thoughts along with me. I hope that when you hear someone else say this shit it stops you from feeling crazy.

Today I'm here saying that you have to stop that tape in your brain that tells you to turn down your flame so that others won't judge you. They will. It's what they do. They'll even judge you if you turn off your light altogether. They're just afraid you won't like their light so they need you to turn yours down so they don't feel alone. How dare you shine without them.

I was just talking with B today about how insanely different each individual is. I find people like me and I know you do too but as much like us as they are, there are still so many night and day differences that we are still an island unto ourselves. And ya know what, I'm more than okay with that. That my dears is what makes us so beautiful. Those most astounding beauty resides there in the person that knows who they are and they are the shit out of it. The people who "try to be" anything are the ones hardest for me to be around. There is no try to be. That's acting like someone else. I'm telling you to be you. People who do not know themselves drain the shit out of me because I feel like I spend all my energy mentally holding them up and trying not to break them.

How do you become a person who knows who they are and is the shit out of it? The first thing you need to do is turn the knob off on giving a shit what others are gonna think. The others that will judge you will not be getting to the end of your life for you and regretting for you that you never lived. Let them stifle their own self and regret for their own self. You my dear are a thing of boldness and beauty, not to be denied freedom, joy, love and happiness.

Don't let any fuckin' body steal your thunder. Roar your ass off and those who want to hear you roar will show up and roar with you.

So are you still here? Great! I'm glad you are in this partnership with me where I write and you interpret my words in a way that tells your own story. There were some of you who read a bit of this and clicked away. That's okay. Maybe on another day we'll meet in that space where we connect. We are all in this together but maybe we don't always have to ride in the same car with those folks that want the windows up. That's all it is really.