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One of the biggest lessons I have learned in life is to get out of my own way. What I keep learning over and over is how it applies to every situation. You know the saying, "no matter where you go, there you are." There is no way to change that. You can't see the world through someone else's eyes. You can't change how someone else will experience an event. You are in total control of how you experience life everyday. If you don't believe that you are giving away your power.

It is so easy to blame others when things don't go well for us but they are not controlling our end of the experience, we are. We can walk away. We can choose to ignore. We can choose to be happy. We  can choose to own our part in every situation.

Let's play a little game. Go back in time and remember a time when you saw someone post something on Facebook that they tried to make appear to just be a general message to all but you knew it was probably specific to a person. Now think about how often you've seen them make posts like that over and over. There's no way everyone doesn't see through that. You probably thought to yourself, "No matter how you play it everyone knows you're mad at someone and you're dragging us all in it and this seems to happen to you all the time." You probably thought, "how can you always be the victim in every situation?"So, you can see it looking at someone else that "no matter where you go, there you are" applies here but maybe it's not so easy to see when it is you who needs to hear that.

Now a not so obvious thing might be something like never having any fun. Fun is out there, it's in here, it's everywhere. Maybe you aren't having fun and that is on you. Well, it is on you. Think about the role you play in this and do it another way. Read the paper for local activities. Go to the park. Take a walk and pay attention to your surroundings. Stop looking for fun in things and start looking at how you see the things you look to for fun. Hope that makes sense.

If you are like I was and maybe you think the job you are in is not the one for you. And, maybe like me you can determine to stop trying to fill a picture frame with a previous imagined photo and let the current photo take over that frame. Stop brooding for what's not there and enjoy what is.

All of the time and energy you spend wishing things away and/or into being could be better spent finding a way to be happy in the now, with whatever the NOW is. You know you'll still be there at the next destination (even when you receive what you really want and even when it never comes) because not matter where you go, there you are. You can't change that.