I’ve not been able to lift a pen to paper lately. There are things that I want to share but sometimes I find myself thinking about authority, as in, who gave me the authority to prescribe any sort of help to the wounds of another’s soul.
Then I start thinking that if there weren’t people out there giving themselves permission to share their knowledge there’d be a heap of stuff I wouldn’t know.
For today I’m gonna share with you a thing that I know for sure. I hope it will help someone who’s on the cusp of knowing it for themselves and is looking for this exact bit of wisdom from someone who’s been there already.
If we could only stand outside of ourselves to hear the stories of how we’ve been wronged by someone, what a different side we would see. No one ever tells a story about how someone hurt them and in their story, they were the bad guy. No one is ever the bad guy in their version. You take an incident that happens between two people and then let those two go tell the story and you can rest assured they were both the victim in their version. How can they both be the victim and neither one the perpetrator?
One of the hardest things we ever face in life is a mirror. We do not want to see our own flaws. If we see our flaws then we have to do something about them. If we pretend that the wrong turns our lives take are the fault of someone else, then we don’t have to look in the mirror where the truth cannot be hid.
If something is going wrong in your life right now, no matter who or what seems to be the cause, tag, you are it. Decisions made by you on a daily basis take you down every road you go. I bet you are pissed just reading that and you have a lot of “yeah buts” just swirling around in your mind. It’s the “yeah buts” of life that keep you there, where it’s comfortable sitting on your good guy throne, while someone else gets to be the bad guy.
If you want to be happy in life you’ve got to take responsibility.
You are sitting king/queen of a universe that no one else can enter and you blame the folks that cannot even enter your world for the demise of it.
Close your eyes. Imagine your life and all that you think about life and imagine it as room you are in with no windows and doors. Imagine how you’ve been happy, you’ve been a victim, you’ve been loving, you’ve been spiteful, you’ve been beautiful and you’ve been ugly. All of those things are in there in your room; no windows, no doors. No one can see inside that room and you cannot see out. No one has any power to shape how things transpire in that room; no windows, no doors. You are the master of the room. That room is your universe. That room is your mind. Everyone has their own universe. Everyone has their own mind. They are controlling their own mind and living in their own universe. You are controlling your own mind and living in your own universe. They don’t know how you see the world because your vision of the world is your own and that vision cannot be seen by anyone but you. You don’t know how they see the world because their vision of the world is their own and that vision cannot be seen by anyone but them.
You are not always the good guy. In fact the only power you have in the whole world is to open your eyes wide and try to see your part in any given situation. You get to decide. Your whole life is based solely on what you decide. You decide. Even in the worst that the universe decides to throw at you, you still decide. You can be a victim or a warrior. You can sit still and be swallowed or move forward. You decide. You decide. You decide. You decide. You decide. You decide. You decide. You decide. You decide.
Repeat after me, I DECIDE. I DECIDE. I DECIDE. I DECIDE. I DECIDE.