Raise your hand if you are jealous and I mean, green with envy jealous, that Buzz Aldrin walked on the moon. Do you sit around thinking thought's like, "who does he think he is?" Nah, I didn't think so. Yet walking on the moon is a damn big feat. Just to fly out of earth's atmosphere is a big feat but you mostly don't care.
You know that one guy/girl that's doing that thing you really want to do with your life, the one that's not only doing it but is very successful at it? In thinking about this is there a little part of you saying, "who do they think they are?" Well, there's a reason for that.
You don't envy people unless they have a thing you want. Dig for the reason you think you cannot have it and blow the damn thing up when you find it.
If you take nothing else from this idea maybe you'll learn what you really want from life. Realize what your jealousy is here to teach you and then try to wish the people you are jealous of the best going forward. They gave you a gift that you just realized you needed to open.
If you are on the receiving end of jealousy remember this thing and give others a break. If someone makes you feel like what you do isn't good enough remember this and give yourself a break.
If you study Quantum Physics you may know that science has determined that the expectations of the researcher will influence the outcome. An even simpler way to put this is, you will see what you expect to see. If you look at how deep this implication goes you will eventually see your own reflection looking back at you. Life cannot be viewed separate from your perception. This idea is woven throughout religion, science, mind, body and spirit. If you'd like to be healthier, happier and be surrounded by beauty you have to first place the idea of it in your mind. That is why you have been preprogrammed with an imagination at birth. If you're not happy you decided not to be. People survive the most dire of circumstances and I mean circumstances most of us cannot even imagine and still find a way to be happy. Let your outcome be influenced by the best you have in you.
I am terrible at giving at times when it's just understood that you should. I never send flowers or cards for any reason. I never have. I sometimes feel plagued by this but not enough to change this attribute. I also do not want to call people when they've experienced the death of a loved one. If I think about the flowers, the cards or the calls I almost feel lost that I should do these things but cannot force myself to. It's like I totally run away at these times. It is definitely a place where I am weak.
Today I reminded myself that I do not have to be perfect. I do not have to be everything to everyone. Even though I'm terrible at giving in one way I am very giving in others. I have no attachment to money so it's easy for me to give that way. I continually put myself out there to try to aid others in finding happiness. I also put myself on the line to show others the way to equality. I have people tell me often that they wish they had the strength and courage to stand for others like I do. That's a big thing and I should feel good about it. So, today I'm reminding myself that though I may fail at a lot of things that might just not be my job but I also win at a lot of things that I find much more important and feel are my job.
Give yourself a break and celebrate your wins. It's too easy for us to kick ourselves for failure. This post will be my reminder. I hope it helps you as well.
I have never traveled outside of the US. I'd love to but just never have. I'd love to see how other people live and be able to get the feel for how life is day in and out for others in different parts of the world. It would truly be a great learning experience and if I'm about anything, I'm about that. I love where I live though and couldn't imagine being any other place. With that said I want to talk a little about not taking for granted where you live.
I think you could travel the world over and never find happiness if you cannot find it at home. I see people on Facebook say that they feel like packing their bags and leaving their small towns and I almost always comment the old saying, "Wherever you go, there you are." Nothing could be truer.
I feel like I've posted this before but it's very telling. Dr Wayne Dyer used to tell a story about walking on the beach in Florida and meeting 2 couples separately who asked him how he liked living there. He posed the same question to both couples asking them, "Well, what's it like where you live?" The first couple described the place talking about how terrible it was and how terrible the people were. The second couple said the opposite. They spoke of how lovely everyone was and how nice the place was. When the two couples had finished he told them both the same thing and was on his way. He said, "Well I think you will find the same thing here." He said this because he knew that they would find the same because that was what they focused on. You can test this for yourself. On your next car trip make a list of things you seldom see before you leave the house and then travel a familiar route but this time look for the things on your list. You will be surprised at how just tuning in will allow you to see things you may have never noticed before. You will see what you look for.
You can see the wonders of the world and it won't bring you any closer to happiness than sitting on your back step.
Don't worry about affording a dream destination. Just walk outside. Get some Tennessee on ya. We live in such a beautiful place and I believe that just breathing this air and walking these hills could have a greater effect on your health than anything a doctor could prescribe on a pad.
I am the ground, the grass, the wind, the trees, the sky, the sun, the moon and the stars.
I walk through the world collecting it's bounty in my hair, under my nails, on my skin and in my lungs.
Nature is a part of me and I am a part of it.
There is no way to separate the part that is me from the part that is it.
You are the same.
You are nature and by extension you are me.
How could I hurt you and not feel your pain?
Let's tread together lightly as we go and let light show us the way.
Back a few weeks ago I wrote this post about an incident I had while driving. I just wanted to report back about that. The post was called "Thanks Asshole". In the post I really did end up thanking the other person involved in the incident and I was sincere about it. Now I have even more wonderful things that have come to light from this to be thankful for.
After all this happened I decided to set some rules for driving in the future. They go something like this:
Never drive more than 6 miles over the speed limit.
Never pass a car unless I can avoid breaking the first rule.
Never pass a car unless I know for sure that there will not be a timing issue.
Always let the cars in front of me set my speed unless their speed is so slow it might be dangerous.
Never get anxious about the speed someone else is driving.
Always know that if I'm being slowed there might be a cosmic reason.
Never look at the clock if I'm running late.
Always realize that if I get anxious or rushed then my attention will be on that and not in the moment enjoying my beautiful surroundings. This is Tennessee after all.
If someone tries to challenge me on the road I will slow until they give up or I will pull over until they are well out of sight. I will let them win.
If I feel rushed I need to remind myself of the rules again and remember that feeling rushed will rob me of my peace.
Always know that if I speed or pass people I will not gain enough from it to ignore my safety or that of my fellow travelers. So maybe I'd get there 1 minute quicker, right?
I know that is a lot of rules but I have my reasons for all of them.
So, I've been following these rules and have received several unexpected gifts from it.
I am always calm and relaxed on my drive.
I enjoy the trip and pay attention to my surroundings.
People going slow no longer bother me because I'm letting them do their thing while I chill back and do mine.
I never have the urge to pass other cars.
I go much slower than my rule most of the time. Sometimes even less than the speed limit.
I never get angry with other drivers.
I never feel like I'm being challenged.
I am much more giving because I don't feel like I am rushed.
It's not just these things. This has spilled over into other areas of my life. I am starting to love letting the world I'm in set my pace. I am also starting to love the surrender. This has opened me up to want to surrender more things and just see how my life plays out when I just let go.
Looking back to a couple of weeks ago when this incident happened and I was shaking and scared, I could never have imagined that it could change me so much. This all happened because I took the pain from it and asked it what it came to teach me, it answered and I listened.
“Forgiveness is understanding, That I may never know, Why we hurt each other, Or which one of us needs to grow.”
This writing was spurred on by so many things going on in the world. One of those things involves a man with 18 brothers and sisters and another involves a lady from Kentucky. This post is not about them but they are part of the tapestry that made this post a post. I'm sorry but there's no way to write this little. This is not a subject I can tackle in a short post. So, let's get to it.
You see it everyday. There are so many people in the world who profess their faith so loudly that they can drown out everything else that is going on in the world. Almost every time you see someone do this, you later find that this person has the most skeletons to hide. I tell people this theory of mine from time to time in random settings and every time I do, people start nodding their heads up and down. Not side to side but up and down. We all see it. And even though we all see it, that never stops the amen's when these people step up to the stump. We also know looking back over our own lives, that we have not been perfect ourselves. When you've done "an item or two" (as Granny Lucy used to say) in your life that you are not proud of, you may feel the need to lie around it or ignore it. Then you may feel like if you just start preaching the gospel people will either forget it or overlook your indiscretion. You don't really need anyone's forgiveness. You need to forgive yourself. If you forgive yourself then you will be much more likely to be able to forgive others. We all mess up. It's the way we learn to be better.
Pointing your finger at others is a smokescreen that you don't need. When I think about this subject it makes me realize why so many religions ask for you to first confess to start the process of turning your life around. If you let all of your cats out of the bag then when you're all good and ready to start a new path, you won't have some pesky little thing behind you, that you have to keep looking back at. There'll be nothing there to later bite you in the butt, once you try to be a better person. These people who never unbag their cats are usually the folks who yell "LORD LORD LOOK AT HOW FANCY I AM WORKING FOR YOU." If you love yourself and you really value others you can allow others to be who they are while you are being the best you. When you don't value yourself you make a show of trying to be a good person, mostly to prove to yourself that you are better than the past you feel the need to hide.
A few months ago I did a series of posts where I exposed my past. Everyone that really knows me knows about my failings and nothing in these posts was news to them. I laid this all down a long time ago. I wrote the series hoping to empower others to free themselves by doing the same thing. People know the things you do in your life and even when you are able to hide some of it, you cannot hide it from yourself. You go walking around covered and weighed down with it. Wouldn't your life be so much simpler and lighter if you just laid it all down? People will forgive you and this act will be a model for others to do the same thing.
No one comes into their lifetime with a manual. You are going to make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. The best way to recover from a mistake is to take your licking, dust yourself back off and learn the lesson the thing was meant to teach you. Don't dwell there. Don't get stuck there. Don't think it is the end of the world. You are lovable. If you can't see that, it's going to be hard for you to really let someone else love you like you should be loved. If you love yourself you can do all the fancy Lord's work you want in quiet and you won't need anyone's validation or attention.
I want to say one more thing. If this makes you feel judged I can promise you as the one saying it that I am not judging you. I know that I am not. If you feel like I'm directing this at you I can assure you that as I wrote this I took no inspiration from a single person I know. If you feel judged, it is you passing judgment. I can't get up in your head and make you think a single thought. What life has taught you is that thing in your head making you think what you think. You have to shut that down. I can't do it for you. The reason I wrote this post for you is so completely out of a place of love and a yearning for you to be happier than you ever knew you could be. I want you to know this thing for yourself because maybe you've not been able to before. You will find the real essence of who you are when you shed what's been weighing you down. Now just drop it and feel the calm and peace wash over you. Like being baptized, you will be renewed.
Note: If you didn't get the chance to read the series of posts that I referred to above you can find them by clicking HERE. To read them in the correct order, go to the bottom of the page and start with "where'd she come from, this little one" and work your way up.
“We are not our bodies, our possessions and our careers. Who we are is divine love and that is infinite.” –Wayne Dyer
I never knew Wayne Dyer like you know a friend but in my mind we had a one-sided closeness. I have a library of books just by Wayne Dyer alone. He didn't know me but that is the way that I knew him; through his words. My life will always be better because he lived. There are probably millions of people who feel the same way.
He had Leukemia but was healed by John of God a few years back. They say he died still well. I hope he did. I believe about disease like he did. I think that disease is the body's way of trying to heal the past or heal the soul and healing these issues heals the body. It is the way our bodies cry out to us, like a wake-up call, that it needs a change or that our life needs a change. If he died well then he lived his final moments by all that he taught.
He could be seen as controversial to some but I knew deep in my bones that he was right. We are all God and we are all love. If this is hard for you to accept then you probably live with esteem struggles that make you feel less than the grand being that you are. That makes my soul weep.
In most of the talks he gave over the last years of his life he liked to remind us of passages in the Bible that he believed supported his belief that we are all God which I'll end with:
Psalms 82 - 6I said, "You are gods, And all of you are sons of the Most High.
John 10 - 34Jesus answered them, "Isn't it written in your scripture, I said, you are gods?